You are in control
This applies both to work and to personal life. At work, I usually feel like there is a lot of pressure and expectations. Similarly, I’m worried about expectations from people around me. What should I do with my life or who should I be? Very often, I’m creating pressure and expectations myself. ‘Take a step back’ and check yourself from time to time. You have more control over your life than you think.
Be bored
It’s not so much about literally being bored but more about avoiding constant stimulation and ‘cheap’ dopamine hits. A lack of stimulation usually makes me motivated to focus on things I consider important in life.
Stay true to yourself
If you consider something important, give it the importance you think it deserves. Be open to changing your opinion, but don’t do something just because others expect it from you. Stay true to yourself, it is what makes you you and it should be considered a strength.
Maximise happiness
In the end, the only thing that matters is being happy. The ultimate goal is sustainable happiness, which I consider to be avoiding extreme highs (and lows) and considering the happiness of the people around you.